A black bandana in the back pocket, within the context of the "hanky code" or "flagging," traditionally signifies an interest in specific sexual activities, often related to BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, Masochism), fisting, or other forms of rough sex. This practice involves placing a colored handkerchief in either the left or right back pocket to communicate a specific sexual desire to be fulfilled by particular sexual acts.
Understanding the Hanky Code: A Hidden Language
The hanky code is a system of color-coded bandanas or handkerchiefs worn in the back pockets of jeans, typically used within gay male subcultures. It emerged in the 1970s as a discreet way for individuals to communicate their sexual preferences and roles (dominant/active or submissive/passive) to others who understood the code.
The Significance of Color
Each color in the hanky code is associated with a specific sexual interest or fetish. While meanings can vary slightly by region or group, some colors have widely recognized connotations.
The Meaning of a Black Bandana
Specifically, a black bandana traditionally indicates an interest in:
- BDSM: Exploring themes of power exchange, discipline, or S&M.
- Fisting: Engaging in the sexual act of fisting.
- Rough Sex: A general preference for more intense or vigorous sexual encounters.
The Importance of Pocket Side
Beyond the color, the side of the pocket where the bandana is worn is crucial for indicating one's preferred role in the sexual act:
- Right Back Pocket: Generally signifies a desire to be the active or dominant partner.
- Left Back Pocket: Generally signifies a desire to be the passive or submissive partner.
Therefore, a black bandana in the right back pocket would suggest an interest in being the dominant partner in BDSM, fisting, or rough sex, while in the left pocket, it would suggest a desire to be the submissive partner in such activities.
Common Bandana Colors and Meanings (Examples)
While the black bandana has a distinct meaning, here are a few other common colors to illustrate the diversity of the hanky code:
| Color | Common Meaning (Historical Context) |
|---|---|
| Black | Interest in BDSM, fisting, or rough sex. |
| Blue (Dark) | Active partner in oral sex (giving). |
| Blue (Light) | Passive partner in oral sex (receiving). |
| Green | Indicates an interest in prostitution or being a sex worker. |
| Yellow | Interest in watersports (urophilia). |
| Red | Interest in fisting (sometimes specifically for active/passive). |
Note: The hanky code is a historical and evolving system; meanings can occasionally vary, and its usage has declined in mainstream gay culture due to increased openness and digital communication.
Evolution and Modern Relevance
While the hanky code was a vital form of communication in specific communities, particularly before widespread internet use and the greater mainstream acceptance of LGBTQ+ identities, its use has become less common. Many people today may not be familiar with the code. However, it remains a significant part of queer history and cultural heritage, representing a clever and discreet way for individuals to connect and express their desires when overt communication was often not an option.
Understanding the hanky code provides insight into the historical methods of communication and self-expression within certain subcultures. For more information on historical queer culture and communication methods, one might explore resources on LGBTQ+ history or cultural studies (External Resource on Queer History).
